Apr 01 2008
Blood Pressure Rising
I have been trying meditation, and tea, and walks, and about everything else I can think of. But do you want to know the truth? Well the truth is that I just really want to kill someone! There, I said it. Maybe that will make me feel better!
The problem is, and I am sure that a lot of you have the same problem, that there are lots of a-holes at work. Yup, amazing isn’t it. There are people at the office who just try to pass on blame, avoid responsibility, and simply seemed determined to screw other people up. Case in point - why would you wait until people involved on a project are out of town before you raise an issue. Oh, they aren’t responding while on vacation? Then immediately escalate, without letting them know, to the boss. The issue existed before anyone left, and people would be back the next day. This “escalator” chose that particular day to announce and push the problem specifically because there was no one there to offer a defense. It was a calculated action to get people into trouble. Really fosters a great team relationship doesn’t it?
Now here is the hard part. I am a firm believer in the fact that we are all dealt adversities in our life. What separates us and shows who we are is how we deal with those hardships. Yes, we all face jerks at work. What happens next is up to you and me. Do we turn into jerks in return? Or do we maintain our cool. So far I have been able to maintain my calm and not go back at this person. But when does that become just laying down and become a doormat? Since this person is a superior, there is only so much I can do without seeming out of line.
But like I said, I am going to burst soon. My blood pressure is up. My head hurts. And my face feels hot. And no, it isn’t just an isolated occurrence, and yes I am already on blood pressure medication. So other than killing someone, got any ideas? (And no, I am not seriously going to kill anyone.)
I worked in a place like that. I don’t any more. My blood pressure is back down to the low-normal range.
Switching jobs isn’t always an option, I know. But it’s usually better than killing someone.
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@Kelly - Thanks for the kind words. “Usually” is the real key there.
Things seem to go up an down, so at the moment back to just a dull roar.
Make things backfire for the a-hole
Next day, when your boss call your attention for the issue raised by your inmediate superior, ask him a salary rise, since it seems things at the office cannot be acomplished without your presence. And when you are absent nobody seems to be competent enough to resolve the issue without having to call you when you are on vacation or as soon as you leave the office.
Don’t be mean, just say that half kidding, half seriously, a bit sarcastic. If your boss is not stupid he will notice what really is happening and even though he could not want to stop the a-hole behaviour, at least won’t take him seriously next time(s) relieving the load from your back.
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@Anthony - I actually like that idea a lot. Almost the best defense being a good offense thing. And yes, hopefully they might realize what they are asking.